Looking Forward
- Rosetta Mandisa
- Jun 4, 2020
- 2 min read
The past couple of weeks have been really hard on me as I deal with some not so pleasant circumstances happening in my personal life. As I struggle to come to terms with my new normal, I also try to find ways to understand myself better. I want to grow from any situation or circumstance in an effort to make better decisions should I find myself in the same or similar situation again. As I read and prayed about my situation, one word came to me; integrity.
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Integrity – the quality of being honest and having strong moral principles; moral uprightness.
I like this word. I think a person of integrity is also trustworthy and someone who lives life in a way that is a positive example to others. As a young girl, I wasn’t big on words. I was simply trying to navigate my way through life. However, I knew I wanted to be a good person. I wanted to be a great mom. I wanted to have a positive impact on my family and friends. I wanted to be someone my friends could trust with their deepest secrets and know that what was said would go no further. I wanted to be reliable, have strong morals, and be loyal. I worked hard to be those things but it wasn’t until I got older that I realized I could sum all of those things up with one word…integrity.
What I have learned recently, as I deal with this current challenge that is before me, is that even when you display great character of integrity and friendship to others it my not be reciprocated. While I am completely bothered that someone I was a true friend to, didn’t return that friendship when it was their turn to do so, I understand that I am in control of who gets to be present in my friendship circle. Also, while it is good practice to give people an opportunity to make things right or to redeem themselves if it is believed that they can, trust can only be broken so many times before it’s time to move on.
Losing friends and people you love is hard, however, don’t feel bad about saying good-bye to someone who is not helping you to be the best person you are working to be. They or others may not understand your choice but you are the only one living your life and you have to be happy with you. You only get this one life to live. Don’t live it with people who don’t believe in you or with anyone who is trying to push you in the opposite direction of your goals and dreams.
Life is all about choices. You will make some good ones. You will make some great ones. You will also make some not so good ones that will keep you up at night. But the great thing about waking up every morning is that you have another opportunity to start again, to right a wrong and to get back on track.
When one door closes, God will open a window…:)
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